Most people are either living in the past or living in the future, but never in the present moment; and there’s nothing wrong with spending time in a place that once existed or a place that hasn’t been created, but don’t miss the present moment. Because living in the past stops you from moving forward, and living in the future stops you from living in the moment. Aristotle once said, young men talk about the future because they have no past; but old men talk about the past because they have no future.
The past and the future are a gift, but what can turn them into a burden is the way we perceive them, how long we remain in them, and how we spend our time with them. My invitation to you..is to visit the past, visit the future, but live the present moment.
Focus on PROGRESS and not on PERFECTION ! 🍃
When we try to do everything perfectly, we risk getting so hung up on details that we lose a sight of what we are trying to achieve in the first place ! 🌿
So don’t worry about being PERFECT. Even if you have to stumble a little or improvise here or there along the way, as long as you get to know where you want to go, you are golden !! ✨
🍁With this sending you’ll lots of love and positivity 🌸
Initially I used to wonder “Kyu Nahi ma, Saari duniya tere tarah.” This world is not much of a beautiful place as you think it is. You come to this world through one support and that’s your mother, who is your God, your creator, your lifeline. But what when your lifeline is no longer with you.
Well, since she has left life has changed drastically. My days don’t go well and my mind sometimes stays in a muddle. But you know what helps? I take out her picture, and put it aside me. I talk to her and it releases all the discomfort I face. At times I wonder what mothers are born with? A real magical power or a lap that has the purest love?
As children we always fail to understand your love but you are the only one who can love unconditionally. I guess, writers and philosophers still fail to describe mother’s love because you come in so many different shades. Wherever you are I wish you are in peace Mum. I miss you Amma is just a daily phrase now because no words can ever express how empty I feel without you.
Ending with just one line, “Kabhi ho Nahi sakti ma, Saari duniya teri tarah” .
Love is an intense feeling. You can not stop loving someone, just because you cannot be together or because they left. Love isn’t a promise nor an agreement, it doesn’t come with a warranty card or an enquiry desk.
Loving someone is like two edged knife, it’s pain disguised as pleasure and the other way around. Some people will come into your life to tear you apart and some will put you back together way too beautifully. One day you’re gonna wake up next to your loved one and you’ll know that they’ll be there even if you close your eyes. It’ll all make sense then. Wait for it.
You’ll never know when is the last time someone walks in or walks out. So have faith in your love and breathe.
There are different kinds of people in this world. Some know exactly what it is they want to do and they’ve known forever. There are others who haven’t quite figured it out yet. Both of these kinds, believe it or not face the fear of what the future holds at various times through their life.
For the ones that have it all figured out, fear what if things don’t go as planned.
For the ones that are on their journey to find their passion, fear sets in the form of uncertainty.
Either way, no matter what happens, you’ll be okay.
Find peace and happiness in the journey to finding it because once you do, life’s got all good things in store for you.
Hope is a song i wrote for you,
now i’m stripping it off lyric by lyric.
Misery is a nothing-town sleeping
over the grave of heartbreaks.
i’m that grave.
Falling for someone is standing
on the edge
and dancing with the devil.
whoever falls first, wins.
My feet are bleeding.
I lost, like I always do.
Staying back is like winning
a lottery, but
only when they want you to stay.
you don’t want me to, do you?
Asking you to stay is like
keeping my heart in a blender
and handing it over to you.
Rest is our history, shattered.
i won’t disappoint.
s(t)ay, i am a fool.
s(t)ay, you love me.
s(t)ay, we will survive.
s(t)ay, you want us to work.
s(t)ay, i’m hopeless.
s(t)ay, it’s me who needs to leave.
The biggest battles that we will ever fight, are the battles inside our own heads. They take place when we are the most vulnerable and totally alone. We face them alone , we fight them alone and we conquer them alone. Somethings are just meant to be this way , and you might wish that you may never have to face them. But to be honest, these battles make us who we are and they are essential and without those scars we won’t be able to recognise ourselves. Without those wounds , we won’t be the same.
Whenever chaos knocks on your door, just embrace it; because that’s the best we can do.
There is a story about a person who went to a Zen master and requested him to teach him Zen. The master started pouring tea for his guest. Soon, the teacup was full, but he continued to pour. It started overflowing.
The person told him, “Please stop pouring, don’t you see the cup is full?” The master smiled and said, “You are like the cup. You are already too full. You have to empty your cup before I can teach you Zen.”
Sometimes you have to unlearn what you have learned to see the opportunity in a new light. So it is in the world of business. Business leaders and managers call such an approach by many names — ‘Zero-based budgeting’, where you don’t let the past dictate how to plan for the future; ‘Re-engineering’, where you fundamentally rethink and radically redesign the processes.
You will have some bad days, weeks and may be months. But you will have to understand that happiness comes in waves and there has never been an ocean totally frozen.
It may get worse, but believe that eventually it will get better. It always does. Your growth is not defined by your bad days, you are not defined by your bad days. Take all the time you need to strive from the place you are in now. Everything is temporary and even the darkest times will pass. You will be fine, remember that.
Whatever you think, you become. Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe what you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted.
If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue getting what you have always got. If you want different results in life, all you have to do is change your mind.
When you fear something, you can wrestle with it, flee from it or rise above it like a plane soaring above the cloud. Next time you feel afraid, move through the clouded experience until your awareness breakes into the bright open sky that exists just beyond that thought, feeling or sensation.
Remember, you are the captain of your attention.
It is always very important that you maintain the right distance between people. If they are too close, there is a chance that they may overwhelm you. On the contrary, if they are too far, they may abandon you.
Stay happy and love those who love you.
The entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. In a similar manner, all the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you.
Never allow someone to guilt trip you in believing your problems are small, or you don’t have it as bad as them. They don’t know the status of your heart or the depth of your strength.
It is okay to trip over your emotions but be your own lending hand back to the top.
The only difference between the successful and unsuccessful is mindset. The only difference between the happy and unhappy is mindset. The only thing that can make or break your life is mindset.
Your mind is the most powerful computer in this world. Learn to use it to your advantage.
The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest and the most damaged people are the wisest. This is only because they do not wish to see anyone else suffering the way they did. Stop judging people.
Be grateful for what you have in life. Do not compare yourself with others. Your journey is yours and you have no idea what the other person has gone through.
Fear has two meanings-
Forget Everything And Run
Face Everything And Rise.
It is entirely upto you which one you would want to choose. Break out of your comfort zone. Remember, the cave you fear to enter, holds the comfort you seek.
In reality, energy is currency. When you PAY attention to something or someone, it indirectly implies that you are buying an experience. In other words, it is an investment so it is better that you spend carefully. Be sure to spend on those things that would bring you a fair return.
Be selective in your choices and treat your time with maximum care just as you do with your finances because it is equally valuable.
The only time when what others think matter is when you seek validation for your own self. But you need no validation when you have confidence in yourself.
There are 7.5 billion people in the world and you let the opinion of one stop all your energy? Do not do that.
Love your decision and make an effort to try and understand why you made it. You will surely become unstoppable once you have a sound reason.
There is nothing wrong in being sad. It is completely okay. You have every right to feel like a total mess and nobody can question you. Do not ever bottle your feelings just because you are afraid of people. You may feel sadness is not leaving you but remember this feeling is temporary.
Masks too hurt at times because they conceal the real you and give you a fake identity. To heal, you need to let your pain out. Cry, scream, express yourself. Do whatever you can but do not sulk. Acknowledge that you are hurt but remember that better things are coming. Every cloud has a silver lining and after every difficulty comes relief.
At some point of time we like the company of a person and we name it as love. But what we don’t realize is that we are giving the control of our life in their hands. Love is not a card game wherein you bluff to win but a game where you accept all your cards even if you know you will lose.
Love is not a pendulum which keeps moving to and fro every moment but a broken clock which will still show you the right time twice. Love is not a super comfy 5 star hotel room but a corner of your room where you find comfort. When in love, we give our own self to them forgetting that we can be our own potter. Remember that accepting your own self is religion and love is what you need to worship.
Sometimes all you need in life is that special someone who has immense faith in you and makes you realise that even the worst of you will be replaced by something better. Sometimes all you need is that special someone who cheers you up on days you are barely proud of yourself. Someone who helps you be the best version of yourself.
At times you need someone who understands you more than you understand yourself. He stands by you no matter what the situation be, even in the darkest times of your life. Sometimes all you need is that special someone who will always walk beside you no matter how tough life gets. Cherish such people in your life.
Feeling distressed? Listen, it is really important to make sure that you don’t define your life with what you are facing and feeling this very moment. Look at your past and acknowledge all the moments. Both the good as well as the bad ones.
All you need to do is just have faith in the healing capacity of time. Be grateful for the good times. Things will soon start falling in place. You will once again start feeling calm, happy and relaxed. The best part being you solely have the control to feel positive again.
It goes unsaid that in the darkest hour of our life, we shine the most. If you look at the rain, it teaches you not to hide, but shine at the places you don’t belong to. You need to come out of your comfort zone to understand your true potential. You only become aware of your inherent abilities when the things are odd. Overcoming your fears and fighting against them will surely give you immense amount of pleasure because it is then you realize how tough you are from the inside.
The problem with us these days is that we take everything for granted. This is the reason why happy moments no longer seem happy anymore, and we begin to lose every hope when life becomes tough. We want miracles to happen and hope for a better future. Although it is good to be inquisitive, but you know asking too many questions and not trying to get a single answer is also not going to help.
At times it happen that the blurred pictures are the most beautiful and the people with sad past make the most beautiful future. So, hold the thread of hope. It is just the beginning and the beginning needs strength. Believe in yourself first if you want others to believe in you.
Everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that changed them. Everyone has a secret they haven’t shared; a past no one’s heard about; talents people don’t notice; weakness hidden inside; a story left untold, so never start judging someone thinking you know them back to front. Because the truth is, you probably don’t.
Life would be a lot more easier if you stop being judgemental. But the brain does not understand the concept of not judging. It sees something and reaches to a conclusion because that is how it works. The brain will judge the person with all the stereotypes that may exist in the minds of the judger. And that is the danger of judging a book by its cover. What you see may not be what you get.
As is rightly said “ Things are not as they seem.’’
Your problem is not the problem. Your problem is the reaction. No matter how small or big be the problem, the more dramatic is the reaction, the longer you will try to solve it. Look at your hurdles pragmatically and in place of creating a fuss about every challenge that you face, make a conscious effort and look for solutions instead.
Do not focus on reacting to your problem. Rather focus on solving it. It is important that you respond emotionally to your life right now as it is the basis of what is to come ahead. Life will be much easier once you understand this. If there is a problem that is bothering you since long, it is important that you do yourself a favour, take out some time and effort to solve it.
Always keep in mind that this is the only life you get. Live every moment and spend time with others. Please your own needs, not at the constant battle for other.
Remember that you see this sunrise because you are blessed with it. Be thankful for your life and not miserable with it.
Keep calm in situations you feel like you are losing it all. Your time is short so remember every moment you have spent here and keep pushing yourself forward. Things will gradually get better with time.
You are you forever so cherish your life because this chance is forever yours.
Do not let the internet rush you. You have time and it is absolutely okay if you are not settled at 28, jobless at 29 or not married at 30. Don’t get discouraged by people who are shining on social media. Remember, no one is posting their failures.
We all have fears, struggles, failures, scars and own fights far beyond what we show. It is essential that you fight your own race at your own best pace. Your Ego will never let you accept the truth. Stop getting mad when people don’t support you. The fact is that half of them cannot even support themselves. Keep marching forward and remember that the tortoise always wins the race.
So, this is a story I had read somewhere which explains life perfectly. One day, it so happened that a girl in the class laughed as she saw the teacher write a wrong answer on the board. The school teacher wrote on the board the following –
2×1 = 2
2×2 = 5
2×3 = 6
2×4 = 8
2×5 = 10
2×6 = 12
2×7 = 14
2×8 = 16
2×9 = 18
2×10 = 20
When the teacher was done writing, he looked on the board and saw all the students laughing because he wrote the second equation wrong. He then said “ I wrote the second equation wrong intentionally because I wanted you all to learn something from this. “
He said, “This is for you to know how the world outside will treat you. I wrote correct answers 9 times, but none of you congratulated me. One wrong answer, and you laughed so bad. “
Here is the lesson – The world will never appreciate the good you do a million times but will criticize you for one wrong thing that you do. But stay strong and rise above the criticism.
This reminds me of a quote –
Once I did bad and that I heard ever, Twice I did good, but that i heard never.”-Dale Carnegie
Generally it is not about the romantic way you meet someone. It’s basically about your compatibility, gestures and adoration. When it comes down to one thing to sustain love, it’s definitely choice. When you choose to love someone, it’s your decision. Every second, you put some effort to nurture that love and this gets us in trouble. I feel its wrong to say that love is something which happens to us. It’s something we make happen.
Love is an action, a pure choice, a commitment. The most beautiful thing about love is that you know that you are chosen by the person you chose. Love needs sacrifice and it won’t always be easy. But it is most beautiful when reciprocated. When you love someone you have something which is so profound. You have a home in that person, where you can be your own self, somewhere you can rest without being judged.
You will have some one who sees you truly and loves you forever. You don’t choose the one you will be attracted to, but you choose the one with whom you will stay in love with. Feelings are fleeting, it is a fickle thing. How you are feeling today will not resonate with the way you feel tomorrow. But real love is constant, it’s tangible. And when life becomes too unbearable, it’s love that gives us the strength. Feelings do not play any role here. When life throws us a curve ball, it’s in love where you will get the much-needed stability. You can’t just abandon love specially when its hard.
Love isn’t really a feeling, nor is it a state of euphoria. It’s hard work which needs constant compromise. Feelings can flicker, it can come and go. But real love? It stays and goes on forever!
Sometimes letting go is necessary. It may not be easy but letting it go on can be much more painful. Destiny cannot be changed and you cannot really bluff what is written in your fate. But in the end, what you need to remember is that there is a difference between being loved and being valued. Many may love you but it is important to know who values you.
This process is quite heavy and needs a lot of willingness. Goodbyes are always hard but at times it is necessary. When you let go, you let go of your past, meaning some part of you, you let go your expectations, your existence, in other words. And trust me, it is a horrific process.
I once read somewhere ” The only meaning that anything has is the meaning you give it, ” and trust me it makes a lot of sense. Fear is the house for all negative emotions. If you were not afraid of letting go, you would have done it already. I know it is not that simple as it appears to be but you are the sailor of your life’s ship and you need to decide what is the best for you.
This is a maxim I always stand by in every point of my life. I have been believing in this right from the very beginning since I was quite young. Name it my strong belief in God or whatever; I being an ardent supporter of this quote, never felt disappointed only coz of this one statement that has shaped and molded my entire life.
Whatever a man thinks or plans to do or achieve or aims to carry out; there is some supernatural power (God) above all who has the reins of the man’s life in his hands. Many a time it may be contradictory to the wishes of the man and goes in sync with the plans of God. All the abilities of a man are subject to certain limitations and that is where God’s actions come into picture.
No matter what you plan or how you may try to execute the plan; it goes unsaid that the end result will certainly not be in your hands.
It is vital that you commit 100 percent to your decisions. I live better listening to my intuition on most occasions.
Negative traits and their positive meanings:
Guilt : To err is human. But you should accept and learn from your mistakes too. This acceptance will take you closer to the ultimate truth.
Blame : Take the responsibility of the world. You might not be directly associated with the problem but taking its responsibility will make you stronger.
Anger : You need to see the world more because there are a lot of good things happening elsewhere too. Embrace that positivity.
Irritability : Ignore if something is bothering you. There are better things in life. Focus on these positive aspects.
–Shades Of Life
Negative traits and their positive meanings:
Grief : You cannot control everything. Accept the loss and move on; give a positive side it to it.
Fear : Life is unpredictable. Enjoy the unpredictability. Get out of your comfort zone and feel the joy of adventure.
Hate : The world is not completely bad. There are things worth loving too. Let go of the hatred. Forgive and give the complete space to love. You will feel better yourself.
Jealousy : Respect yourself and the situation you are in. Don’t waste time in asking why others have achieved something greater than you. Focus on yourself.
–Shades Of Life
As I spent more time with myself I deepened the connection I had with myself. I stopped being desperate for others company because I started to have more fun on my own. I became my own friend. I started to feel more secure as a person as I tapped into my true inner being. I started to believe in myself more. I started to trust myself more.
When you deepen your connection with yourself through self-love, you’ll connect on a deeper level with others too. As your relationship with yourself improves, your others get stronger as well.
–Shades Of Life
What is investment? Usain Bolt has won 9 gold medals in last 3 Olympics and he has run less than 2 mins on the track. That’s economy of effort. Usain Bolt ran for less than 115 secs in total in his 3 Olympics and made $119 million dollars! That’s more than $1 million for each second he ran! But for those 2 mins he trained for 20+ years !
*That’s investment.* *Think long term. Patience pays.*
–Shades Of Life
I was jogging one day and i noticed a person in front of me, about 1/4 of mile. I could tell he was running a little slower than me and I thought, i shall try to catch him. I had about a mile to go my path before i needed to turn off. So i started running faster.Every block, i was gaining on him just a little bit.I was only about 100 yards behind him, so i pushed myself. Finally, i did it! I passed him by. On the inside i felt so good. “I beat him” of course, he didn’t even know we were racing. After i passed him, i realised i had been so focused on competing against him that i had missed my turn. I had gone nearly six blocks past it. I had to turn around and go all back. Isn’t that what happens in life when we focus on competing with co-workers, neighbours, friends, family, trying to outdo them or trying to prove that we are more successful or more important? We spend our time and energy running after them and we miss out on our own paths. The problem with unhealthy competition is that its a never ending cycle. There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with better job, nicer car, more money in the bank. “You can be the best that you can be, you are not competing with no one.” There’s no competition in DESTINY, run your own RACE and wish others WELL!
Stop seeking others approval for everything. This is the most liberating thing I have come across. As I loved and respected myself more, I stopped worrying about how much others liked or approved of me. I stopped doing things to be liked. This created space for me to be more authentic, less defensive, and more my genuine self.
When you have your own approval and acceptance, you start caring less about other people’s opinion of you and living a life that’s aligned with your own values.
–Shades Of Life
I am ashamed of how little I valued the fact that my time on earth is finite. I regret all the things I could have done but did not do. All the people I could have had amazing, life-changing conversations with.
I hate that I gave so much time to consuming rather than creating.
I have no fondness for the avalanche of anxiety and restlessness that almost buried me as a result.
These days, I engage in things that push me towards the life I want. Because each time I don’t, I lose momentum and the next day is that much harder to tackle.
I make a point to always have something in my daily routine that makes me feel uncomfortable. Something I’m sacred of. Something that I would rather think about than do. It can be writing, making music, learning a new skill, studying new ways to live, or even a harder exercise routine. Hope breaking out from my shell would make me a better version of myself.
–Shades Of Life
As I was growing up my dad would always have to remind me that worrying about things that are outside of my control was harmful to my attitude and ultimately challenging my ability to be happy. Plus, I had no control so I should stop worrying. He’d continue by saying that worrying about something within my control was not needed since I had the ability to fix the problem by taking action. Our time on this earth is limited, and it’s extremely important to make the most of it while we are here. Look at life as a dress rehearsal — even if we mess up our lines, we can stop, take some advice from the experts that support us and guide us through it, and get back to the show.
–Shades Of Life
For a long time, I was ashamed of myself because I “felt too much.” People constantly told me, “Oh, you and your emotions! You’re such a cry baby!”
It took me a while to accept that part of me, to accept that I am highly emotional. Today I can say I simply love my emotions, good and bad. I made them my number one guiding system through life. They always tell me if something’s right or wrong for me and always help me to make the right choices and decisions.
Realize that there is nothing wrong with you. We all feel like that once in a while.
Befriend yourself with the thought that we are all perfect with our imperfections. Some imperfections we accept, and some we use as opportunities to grow. My nose or wild mood swings, your smile or silly quirks, her lips, his chin, our fears, our dreams—it’s all as it should be. Unique and perfect in their own imperfection.
–Shades Of Life
You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want? It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective. Just remember that it’s always not about you.
–Shades Of Life
There is no shame in not knowing. No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection. We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life. Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and so much more relatable.
–Shades Of Life
Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out life’s purpose and do it all at the same time.
Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit. Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.
–Shades Of Life
Today I came across a very popular quote that says, ” Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon
Totally true. No matter how carefully you plan things and how hard you work on them, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to and that’s perfectly ok. There is nothing to feel bad about it. We are humans and we have all of these expectations; predetermined visions for our “ideal” life, how will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams simply fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction. Life is all about experimenting. There is no such formula for it. Hit and trial methods do exist.
–Shades Of Life
This is one of my most favourite quote of all times. “I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.
You shouldn’t waste your time on making everyone happy. There will not be everyone to agree with you or even like you at times, and it is perfectly okay. It’s human nature to have the feeling of belonging, to be liked, respected and valued, but certainly not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot surely give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside. You will have to trust your instinct. Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect and stay true to your values. Life is simple. We complicate it.
–Shades Of Life
Hey people. How about some self introspection today? Lets talk about how important money is for us as an individual. In my opinion, money can not really solve your real problems.
Money is only a tool; a commodity that is essential to fulfill our “wants,” but it is not the panacea to our problems. There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet are living a wonderfully happy life. And on the other hand, there are many people who are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.
Money can buy you a nice home, a great car, branded clothes and shoes, even a bit of security and some comforts for life, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness. The “happiness” it brings is only fleeting which simply passes with time and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy. Life does not revolve around money. Money is undoubtedly essential but is not the sole essence of life.
–Shades Of Life
Hey peeps. Hope all of us are well. M back with my new series life lessons. Hope you all like it! Do like and comment your thoughts.
Life as we all know is very complicated in itself. The more we try to uncover life, the more mysteries we come across. Life is a maze. At times we feel we have found a way through it, but suddenly it knocks you down. Relentless, remorseless and unremitting; life is cruel and at the same time is the best teacher. In the hoard of making money, we all as humans forget our duties towards our family, towards each other and even forget the concept of humanity.
Would like to end with a quote “From dust you came and to dust you shall return. ” Then why this rat race of money making. The ultimate end of everyone is the same so stay humble and stay human.
–Shades Of Life