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Better Yourself

Sometimes, staying strong for too long can backfire. So maybe the problem isn’t that you’re feeling vulnerable right now. Maybe the problem is that you’ve felt pressured to stay strong for too long. You’ve been holding in your emotions. You’ve been wearing a brave face. You’ve been acting like everything is perfectly fine and you’ve been going about your days like normal when a million things are wrong. You can’t play pretend forever. Eventually, you were bound to break.

Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is admit you’re struggling. You don’t have to do everything on your own. You don’t have to push other people away in the name of independence. There’s nothing wrong with showing your vulnerability, expressing your emotions, and asking for help. You shouldn’t be ashamed of whatever you’re currently experiencing. Everyone goes through rough times. Everyone hits rock bottom sooner or later. The best thing you can do when you’re feeling low is admit that you don’t have all the answers and could use a little help.

Remember, real strength isn’t about looking like you have your shit together. Real strength is about being honest with yourself and taking the steps necessary to better yourself.

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Embrace Your Chaos!

The biggest battles that we will ever fight, are the battles inside our own heads. They take place when we are the most vulnerable and totally alone. We face them alone , we fight them alone and we conquer them alone. Somethings are just meant to be this way , and you might wish that you may never have to face them. But to be honest, these battles make us who we are and they are essential and without those scars we won’t be able to recognise ourselves. Without those wounds , we won’t be the same.

Whenever chaos knocks on your door, just embrace it; because that’s the best we can do.

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Choice – A Blessing or Curse?

Your life basically is a sum of all the choices that you make. The better your choices, better is the opportunity to live a happy life. You know what is funny is that there was a time when I never believed I had a choice. I would have chosen to please everyone else except my own self because I feared the judgement which I thought would come with the choice that would be right for me.

Choices in reality do not really exist if your main focus is to keep others happy. Though this can be incredibly freeing, it can also be quite scary at the same time. It is important to note that if you want to put everyone else’s wishes above your own, then the choice is easy – do what it takes to make everyone happy! But doing this is not that easy. You need to decide whose feelings matter more? Is it yours or others?

If you’ve ever been caught in one of these situations, you know it’s a lose-lose situation plus it is quite exhausting and you begin questioning yourself if this people pleasing mission is really worth it? It is all basically not worth the headache that starts to build and it is better to make choices that are right for you in the long run.

I’ve on and oft quoted that “other people’s opinions of us are none of our business”. At times it is easier to believe that there is no choice because then we can stop any kind of disappointment which may arise from living upto others expectations and sacrificing our own happiness. If your own happiness isn’t a priority, then having a choice is indeed a blessing. If you do not want to believe that putting the happiness of others may ultimately result in sacrificing your own, then it is definitely viewed as a curse. The good news? It is your choice!

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