You did not lose, you got lucky. You got lucky enough to meet someone who showed you that there were souls within this universe that felt as deeply, and cared as feverishly, as you did.
You did not lose, you got lucky. You got lucky because you met someone who, for a moment in time, was able to squeeze all of your broken pieces back together. You got lucky. Lucky enough to meet someone who plucked anxiety out of your chest like splinters, who poured calm into the parts of you that no one else clapped for.
No, you did not lose — you got lucky. You got lucky because time did not choose to separate you. You got lucky. Lucky enough to have found them, to have experienced them, to have been given the opportunity to love them the way you loved them.
But sometimes, sometimes people come into our lives and they love us like hurricanes — making us question if we feel too deeply, if we are simply too much to hold. The hardest lesson you will ever have to learn is that this too is a gift. To have been loved in halves is to have been loved by someone who taught you how to walk away. How to choose yourself for once, how to stand up for your worth. At the end of the day, they may not have loved you, but they did teach you how to survive the wreckage, how to endure the storm, and how to rebuild.
“Are you a freelancer?” this is generally a question I am asked often. “How do you earn? It must be quite easy to work at your comfort.” The proper response is “Yes, I am a part-time freelancer and I earn my living by working hard and staying committed to my deadlines. It is not at all easy and it requires a lot of patience and perseverance. But how many people actually understand this.
Generally people don’t understand how exhausting freelancing jobs can be. It is not like just because we are typing and not involved in any kind of physical work, we don’t get tired. Of course we do and so it is important to exercise and relax often. Freelancing requires multi-tasking and being caught up in so many tasks, one is totally exhausted by the end of the day. In such a situation, doing a bit of Yoga keeps me going.
Whenever you feel like giving up, it simply implies you need to change something in your life. Be it your career, your friends circle or your partner. If you want to let go of something, just let it. Do not doubt your guts. Take the decision simply. At times, we need to keep everything aside and just focus on our own selves. Get out of your comfort zone and it is only then that you gain. Connect to the present and feel proud of your accomplishments!
It is always important to maintain a positive attitude in life. But it is also true that life is not always perfect. It is impossible to live your life always in a positive state of mind. Everywhere we look we are continuously being told to be happy and also that we have the ability to manifest our perfect life. Being positive can be exhausting and sometimes, depressing. We can’t simply begin to live a life devoid of any sadness or negative emotions.
When life takes a downward lane, it is normal to blame ourselves. But you should remember to avoid blatant negativity. Just like nature has to go through the darkness of winter in order to experience the rebirth of spring, in a similar fashion, life’s hard times must be lived. The storms of life teach us a lot.
We tend to evaluate and judge our feelings, and those which make us uncomfortable, we term them as bad. We then naturally try all possible means to avoid these negative feelings. The skill of converting negative feelings into positive action is a healthy skill to develop. However, the overuse of it may help avoid feelings which may later manifest themselves as anxiety, depression or you can also term it as the overall discontentment with our life. So it is really important to learn how to process negative emotions. No matter what, just remember it is a phase which will eventually pass. You are having a bad day not a bad life. And that is perfectly fine!