Friedrich Nietzsche in this statement says that when you go through tough times, you gradually build up the strength for the next painful event. In case of a trauma, it may be quite a comforting thought. But most importantly, how do you feel about this statement? Does it resonate with you, or does it sound cliched?
It can be viewed as a war wound, to heal from a really bad time feeling more powerful and ready to take on the next battle. But with me, that is not quite the case. Especially after rough days and tough times, I find myself weaker and more sad. For me the quote goes like – What doesn’t kill you hurts you incredibly and makes you vulnerable and pathetic.
At times, it happens that a few tough situations help in becoming a stronger person. But the really big things, the things that totally altered my life without my consent, the loss of my most loved ones, the horrible experience of being desperately lonely or panic-stricken with anxiety and such other times have bought nothing empowering in me. I’ve felt my heart shatter into pieces and my soul dry, but I never felt stronger after those days. I was only happy that they were over.
I personally feel that strength doesn’t come from life’s worst moments, rather it comes from the best. Whenever I am loved, I feel strong. I find strength in the times when I’ve been most generous and caring. I find strength when I am able to deal well with the bad days. But I feel weak when I face those gloomy bad days. So with me, what doesn’t kill me, does not make me stronger, rather it makes me more weaker and snatches the entire energy out of my existence.
A lot many times it happens that you simply want to forget someone. But that doesn’t happen. You might have moved on, it is an entirely different concept, but it doesn’t mean you have forgotten the person. You do not forget them. They stay in the back of your head all the time. The memories may blur with time but you can not forget them who taught you how to love.
Such people live with you forever. They are a part of your existence, a part of you. With time the wounds may heal, you may not see tears in your eyes when you see their pictures or hear their name. But in the back of your mind, you know they still exist and will do forever. You gradually accept the fact that you cannot forget them and you won’t and you begin living with it. That is a name which has been printed on your soul, stitched in your veins and is running in your blood.
Believe it or not, it is true that no one stays in your life forever. Just like nothing lasts forever, in a similar fashion; no one is bound to stay in your life always. So, when someone says they will love you forever, can you trust them?
Nothing lasts forever, so why should love be an exception? Everything gradually gets crushed. It all gets broken. It all passes with time. Only the moment you’re in carries some meaning. Somethings stand the test of time just like the things that last. Like love.
Love can easily be compared to fire on a rainy day. You certainly have to devote your time protecting it, feeding it, tending it because if you do not cater to it, it eventually goes out of your way. Good times and good things are not meant to last. You tend to feel miserable because you know you have put in your energy as well as time but the net result is a big ZERO. One day you have the summer sun and the next winter storms. But that is how it is supposed to be!
This is the tragedy and miracle of existence – that everything is so temporary. The only thing that’s permanent is change. So next when you hear someone saying that they are with you forever, don’t trust them. They can be in your hearts and memories forever but physically they may or may not be with you. Life is a collection of moments, moments that form the necklace of life and to complete the circle, it is always important to end a chapter.