Self-doubt, lack of confidence, not believing you are good enough, and aiming for perfectionism can block you from attempting anything. It can create a fear of failure. This fear holds you back and you might not even have the courage to try. When you don’t try, you inevitably always fail.
It is a negative feedback loop, because when you fail, it is confirming your self belief that you aren’t good enough and again you will not ontinue to try.
Luckily the opposite is also true. When you believe you are good enough, you don’t strive for perfection but just to be enough. You are hopeful and give it a go. Even if you then fail, you had a chance at success and you would have always learned from it.
As Brene Brown says, when you are not sure if you should or shouldn’t do something, ask yourself:
Is it worth doing, even if I fail?
Feeling distressed? Listen, it is really important to make sure that you don’t define your life with what you are facing and feeling this very moment. Look at your past and acknowledge all the moments. Both the good as well as the bad ones.
All you need to do is just have faith in the healing capacity of time. Be grateful for the good times. Things will soon start falling in place. You will once again start feeling calm, happy and relaxed. The best part being you solely have the control to feel positive again.
Lately you have been quite hard on yourself. Judging and criticizing yourself for all that what is truly Yours.
Your Anger. Your Career. Your Life Goals. Your Nasty Thoughts. Your Love, Faith & Positivity.
But my dear, all of this makes You. So, don’t pretend. If you are trying to fix yourself, fix your thoughts, do it. Do not feel guilty because you are not wrong. Switch to self-watching mode. Be your own watchman! Don’t curse your life or fate. Everything happens for a reason and this moment is an opportunity to accept and grow beyond. Treat yourself well for each and every small achievement. Don’t wait for others to recognize and praise you.
Pat Yourself & Feel Proud!
Loads of Love,
Sometimes the most purest form of love you will find on earth is unexpected love. In such a case, you are not looking for some one to complete you, you are not in search of some one to fill the void, you are just not broken and neither are you looking for a rebound.
One fine day, out of nowhere you meet someone. You know you weren’t looking for him and neither were you expecting him. But you met him and you are happy you did. There is always one lustrous moment just before you realize you have fallen in love and you feel a strong force just like a tornado or a whirlpool which is strong and fierce, yet amazingly inviting.
At times, we feel immense peace in the people we meet on our way because our souls have suffered so much chaos and it feels so much better and peaceful just to talk to them and see them smile. You actually feel very happy when you are around them because they are your inspiration to live. Despite all your flaws and failures, they inspire you to be your true self. They are your soulmates because they have seen the worst in you. They are by your side because they have faith in you and believe that the goodness will always lead you the way. You may have a bumpy ride with them, but these are the people who never leave, who always stick by your side.
Some things are hard to let go. Somethings have a habit of coming back and one of which is true love. Giving up on your loved one would mean giving up on a part of ourselves.
I have always felt that when it comes to love, you could always make some changes, fill in the cracks, build a new foundation may be to cover up the old, but you cannot simply ignore the fact that the scarring will always be there no matter what. And trust me, true love comes back. May be after quite a long time but it does.
Think of it this way! Remember the best slice of the juiciest and yummiest pizza that you have ever eaten? Were you not disappointed every time you had a bite of an entirely different pizza which doesn’t even match to it? Same is the case with love. Life is full of letdowns. When you start seeing someone new, you would obviously compare him with the “best you ever had.” Understanding how much you love someone may take time. You can spend hours, months and even years together without completely appreciating what that person means to you. And you only get to know the worth of that person when he is gone. When you lose someone whom you once loved, you may realise that life without him simply doesn’t work the way it’s supposed to.
When there is a love so deep that you can’t let it go, the world conspires and brings it back to you. If this person affects your day-to-day decision-making, then with each decision you find yourself one step closer to your true love. In the case of love, you need to have a little bit of faith, and trust me, miracles do happen.
Love is not synonymous with pain and the day you realise this will be the day you accept the person who treats you right! It will be the day you let real love in, one which brings butterflies in your stomach and gives you a heart pump the moment you catch a glimpse of them. It is a love which comes in smiles and laughs and causes an ache in your stomach when you both are together. It is a love which makes you the best version of you, which believes in you when you stop believing in yourself. A love that smiles at you even when life is tough and tells you that “it will all be fine because I have faith in you.”
Love is beautiful when felt for the right person. There is a place in my heart where a part of you will always be a part of me. This is love and when you realise love is not painful, that day you will welcome it in its entirety.