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In a Room Full of People…

I don’t know how loneliness works. What does it ask for? Just someone or someone specific. I may never be one of those people who can walk into a room full of strangers and still find a friend. I will never be someone whose phone beeps all the time because the world just can’t get enough of me. I can never be someone not lonely. I can never be someone trying to be less lonely. Maybe because I crave for something that the world knows nothing of. Something that only a man of words can read but never loud enough, but only in my words.

The only reason I’d walk in a room full of strangers would be to be one. To stand there and be no one, nothing, and everything. I don’t know how lonliness works, maybe it is me. I am my alone, my lonliness, my stranger. I hardly know who I am, and yet I am surrounded by people so full of who they are. It is lonely, this world, because everyone wants be not-lonely. I don’t understand that if people are supposed to be the cure of lonliness, why I feel the lonliest in a room full of people.

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Introvert Struggles – 14

So, I am back with my introvert struggles series. If you haven’t yet checked out the previous introvert posts, you can simply click here for it.

I have always felt as an introvert it is sometimes very hard for others to understand what I am thinking or feeling. Communicating things verbally always doesn’t come easy for me and to be honest, I am not very good at being vulnerable. It often takes me a very long time to be comfortable around most people. But soon after I let down my walls and start to really care about someone, I am all in.

You must have heard that – “Actions speak louder than words.” It very well serves as a life mantra for me. If you really are curious as to how the introverts in your life feel about you, rest assured as their actions may speak volumes even when their words will not.

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Introvert Struggles -13

There are people who like to invest a lot of energy and get a lot back. Some people don’t want to invest a lot and don’t expect a lot back. The people who are deemed the extroverts in pop literature, the people who are social butterflies, what they get back on an interpersonal level is sufficient for them.

As introverts, we need to be aware of this. While small talk is draining for us, meaningful conversations are energizing. They require us to expend energy, but they also give us energy back.

Haven’t we all talked for hours about something we are passionate about, and been at a loss about what to say when we are talking politely with an acquaintance? As an introvert, social conversations can be a challenge for me. I didn’t realize earlier that one of the reasons for this is the difference in the rhythms of how introverts and extroverts communicate.

When we are asked a question, introverts usually pause to think about it before replying. We need this space to formulate our answers. This is different from extroverts, who formulate their answers while talking. Two different identities with their own existence. Isn’t that beautiful!

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Introvert Struggles -12

Tortoises are out of fashion. They are no longer the wise ones, taking one patient step after another, coming out victorious in the end. Today, they are the ones who can’t cross the road fast enough, the ones most likely to get hit by a car.

There is shame involved in being a tortoise.

And so I have spent a considerable chunk of my life trying to turn into an extroverted hare, coming up with rationalizations for why I am not, most definitely not, an introverted tortoise.

For one, I don’t move slowly. In fact, I love to dance. I am quick in perceiving and understanding what people say and mean. I am not slow-witted.

But these explanations don’t quite cover what it means to be a tortoise—how their rhythms are slow and deep, how they enjoy taking in the scenery instead of rushing past, how they need the shell that protects their most vulnerable, precious self.

As introverts, it’s easy for us to get alienated from our own nature because of the extrovert bias in the culture at large. So, how do we reconnect with and start celebrating ourselves? It starts with self-awareness and living our own truths.

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Introvert Struggles -11

So today I was engrossed in my thoughts of my early career days, I had a boss who wanted me to speak up more in meetings and be more outgoing, but with my introverted nature I liked to think things through first and not just blurt out an idea or a response. I was exhorted to be someone I wasn’t and it made me feel defective. Of course I wasn’t defective. None of us are though some extroverts still think otherwise. Nowadays I truly celebrate my introverted nature and have created a lifestyle that feeds me. 


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Introvert Struggles -10

I am not alone with my “weird” schedule and feelings about socializing, etc. Every time I try to get on a “normal” schedule, it backfires and I’m miserable – I definitely wind up with my joy robbed. I know emotional trauma from my past has contributed to my inability to “rehabilitate” myself. But without a doubt I was born an introvert. I enjoy socializing one on one but group get togethers are not my thing at all and stresses me to the max. My acquaintances want me to get with the rest of humanity (early to bed, early to rise) but I’m going to have to find the courage to say, No, that won’t work for me. When I try it, I become exhausted and practically unable to function. 

A counselor once actually told me that with everything I’d been through, I shouldn’t add one more thing and force myself to “better” my schedule. It was such a relief to hear that. AND, I just happened to see the article today that people who go to bed late and sleep late are likely intelligent and creative people. I’m going to get some mileage out of that one 🙂 

And then a few hours later I read that it’s okay to live a life that is suited to me, the way I’m wired. I’ve always been in the minority on a number of issues and I need to accept myself for who I am. Love to all!

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Introvert Struggles – 8

Hey guys. So after a long Shades Of Life series I am back with introvert struggles.  

  1.  We introverts are amused when people try to figure us out, like really! We can’t even figure us out ourselves.  
  2. So isolophiliac that we often dislike sharing our own time with others.
  3. Nothing personal. Sometimes we just don’t like texting or talking to people.
  4. When people invite us : Oh that’s nice! When they cancel: Oh, thank God!
  5. Why socialize when there is great wifi connection and good food at home!

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  • How to make small talk with an introvert :

Step 1 : Identify the introvert

Step 2 : Smile and walk away

Step 3 : Understand that the introvert enjoyed spending time with you.

  • Two things we as introverts would surely avoid : phone calls and uninvited guests
  • Pretending to use the phone to avoid unnecessary socialising.
  • Staying up very late at night as that is the only time you can be alone.
  • Love texting but calling on the phone and talking is torture.

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Introvert Struggles-6

Heya folks! Hope all is going well with everyone. Enjoy reading the next part to my introvert struggles series and do not forget to like or comment if you find it relatable. Cheers!

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  1. One of the best things you can do for me is give me some quiet time and space when I need to recharge. I promise to come out again when my tank is full.
  2. Completely changing your path because you saw someone you know and want to avoid conversation.
  3. In a world where everything is overexposed, the coolest thing you can do is maintain your mystery.
  4. Gets an unexpected call. Does not pick up because you are not mentally prepared.
  5. The best thing about introverts is that we wear our chaos on the inside, where nobody can see it.

 

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Introvert Struggles-5

Hey peeps! So here I am with the continuation of my introvert struggle series. Its amazing when you guys like my work and provide your opinion. Continue doing the same further 🙂

  1. We introverts are sober people. We do not believe in investing our time and energy when the place gets too loud. We simply walk out.
  2. As introverts, we crave for intimate moments and soulful talks and those are’t found in crowds. We hate crowds and we love solace.
  3. If forcefully, we have to attend a party, we would definitely come up with all sorts of excuses to leave the party early.
  4. When someone you do not know tries to engage you in small talk and your answers are so direct and to the point that you have no clue how to take that conversation forward.
  5. That amazing moment when people leave the house and you are finally alone is complete bliss. People can be draining sometimes.

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PS : We introverts are good people. Just a bit difficult to understand! We pair up pretty well with the ones of our kind.

Do like, comment and share if you find this post similar to your situation 🙂

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Introvert Struggles-4

Hey, peeps. Here comes part 4 of my introvert struggles series. Hope you enjoy reading!

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  1. Sometimes introverts need to recharge their social batteries for an entire weekend. If you can’t find us, don’t worry. We are fine. 😄
  2. Me: Hi
    Person: Ignores
    Me: Oh God. M a horrible person that was so awkward. I vow never to say hello to anyone as long as I am alive. May a moving vehicle smite me where I stand and remove me from this earth as I speak. 😣
  3. I may decline your call but I still love you. ❤
  4. Every social interaction with someone new feels like a test for which I did not study. 😌
  5. We are people who do like being invited to places but never really wanna go.😎

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Introvert Struggles-3

So here I am back with part 3. Introvert are themselves are curious creatures to handle. People may wonder whether introverts are mentally unhealthy. But no, introverts are just a bit reserved.

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  1. During small talks, we introverts either smile or plan an escape.
  2. When asked for weekend plans our only plan is staying at home doing literally nothing.
  3. If asked for a social gathering impromptu response, “I’ll have to check my schedule.”
  4. Quiet in groups. Loud between me and you.
  5. Leaving a store without finding what we needed because we didn’t want to bother somebody for help.

If this is the case with you too, do like, share and comment your experiences.

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Introvert Struggles-2

Hi everyone.  So I am back with introvert struggles part 2. I am sure as writers we have that instinct within us somewhere. Do feel free to like, comment and share if you find it relatable. Capture

  1. Making plans when in a good mood but then that day comes and you actually wanna die. 😂
  2. Finding conversations meaningless and silences much more comfortable.
  3. Least lonely when alone and want a godamn rest after a lot of peopling.
  4. Get home from work and sit on a couch staring at nothing because you’re so emotionally paralyzed having to deal with people all day
  5. Staying inside at times as it feels too peopley out there.

I know we introverts are kinda different but that’s the way we are. Do not forget to like and comment if you find it related. 🙂

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Introvert Struggles-1

Ok, so here is my compilation of the best introvert sides I have come across. I being a big time introvert, find these situations quite relatable. Do like and comment if you find it relatable and also comment your introvert struggles and I would put them in my next write-up. ☺

  1. People always think if you want to hang out you have to do something. Like for me,give me a plate of chips, wifi password and I can sit in silence for hours.
  2. I enjoy solitude and being alone. I can come to an empty flat and sleep peacefully.  I am not afraid of darkness or loneliness for that matter. Infact for others it may be loneliness but for me its pure solitude.
  3. I like the sunset, serenity, rain, quiet places and the moments when you look at the sky and it is so damn beautiful. It always has a new story to tell. I love sunsets because it is the proof of a well-spent day, like the sun has kept its promise to the sky for yet another lifespan.
  4. Come home, make some tea, sit down and everywhere there is silence. Everyone decides for themselves whether it’s loneliness or solitude.
  5. After an hour of mental preparation- Ok m ready to go for the party. 🤗 After 5 minutes at the party- Ok m ready to go home. 😟

 

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