Posted in Shades of Life

As You Like It!

Take your time to rest. The world has put too much on your plate. You don’t have to eat everything. Remember what you don’t like. Remember what hurts your stomach. Remember what you are allergic to. Remember what isn’t good for your heart. Hold this knowledge close, think, reflect, savour and choose to let go when your heart is full.

Be silent for your own sake. You have already taken responsibility for too many wars. Your skin is chipping away to someone else’s ruin. Save it for the rest of your world.

The world has put too much on your plate, you don’t have to deal with it all at once.

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Posted in The Untold Story

Are We Parallel Lines?

Craving for some fresh air can come anytime
And my sleep cycle is anyway messed up enough
Getting out of my house
Walking on the road, just drenched in the rain
It’s a good weather maybe
Maybe it’s the way of nature having her own breakdown
These maybes are killing me right now
The n number of possibilities running in my mind
In the Hustle bustle of my own
I hit the vacuum or maybe some whitespace of absolute nothingness
As I look down the road…
“Are we parallel lines?”
Meeting at no point?
Just like some railway track
But walking by each other’s sides
With the same passion and love
Now all of a sudden all I want is this road to merge
And this becomes my greatest urge
Cause for me it’s no more just roads or railway tracks
It’s You and I
It’s this fixed distance between us tearing me apart
I’m fighting in my head to merge or mold to make these roads concile in a single line
Seems like sleep is not the only thing I’m lacking today, its air too

Pretty glad about this soothing breeze
I was not really great at maths
But I remember coincident lines are parallel too
Just with all the points similar
Which again feels hard to attain
But I am not gonna get this single hope in vain
Or should I wait to meet at infinity?

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Posted in The Untold Story

Whom Are You Running From?


I brushed my teeth
twice
before I realised;
it was impossible to
get rid of the
taste of guilt.

I gulped down
two
glasses of water
before I realised;
you cannot wash
down regret.

I tried to breathe
inhale
hold
exhale
repeat
before I realised;
I was the one
burning.

I had a white toast
to calm my
churning stomach
before I realised;
you can only watch storms.
Watch as they ruin
homes, and lives, and everything.
everything they touch.

I shut my ears
listened to music
before I realised;
the thunder of my thoughts
was louder than
all the songs merged into one.

I tried to close my eyes
and escape,
before I realised;
you can’t escape
from each and everything.

There are some situations where you have to accept the truth. Whom do you run to
when you’re running
from yourself?

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Posted in In A Nut Shell

Dark & Flawless

Today, I learnt an important lesson from my therapist. ⁣
At the end of our hour, she told me that although I’ve been hurt and broken badly, she can see I still have parts that aren’t shattered. ⁣
I laughed lightly and I said ‘Yeah, one day that will be all of me, no parts shattered anymore”, And she said ‘No, it won‘t.”⁣
And, for a second, I felt my heart break but she continued. “But it will be the most dominant part of you. Think of your body if you break your shoulder, even after it heals it will be tender. It will be a sore spot. You will be careful with it. There will be a gentleness when you care for it. If you crack a rib, laughing will hurt and, even after there is no longer a fracture, you may laugh lighterjust in case. You can heal, but it is okay to be aware of the parts of you that once hurt the most. The most important thing to know is that where there is tenderness, let there be gentleness.” ⁣

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Posted in Shades of Life

Dark

While I was standing alone in the darkness, this lightened lamp caught my attention. I could see my faint shadow painted on a wall by the light of this lamp. As the stormy winds were playing with the flame, my shadow was trembling too.

I watched the little lamp fight with the darkness, betraying the strength of its own and also the depth of the darkness. The blowing breeze tilted the triumph towards darkness, and from the struggle of the shivering flame, I could see that the lamp would die any time soon. But surprisingly, the flame got its balance back. Perhaps it was the magic of firm determination of not giving up, and now the lamp stood still against the dark in this “looking impossible to win” battle. I was astonished by the toil, the little lamp had gone through without a dwindle and I surely was impressed with the arrogant behaviour the lamp showed towards the uncanny dark. But now I think, what choice did the lamp have?

Isn’t life like this sometimes? It drags us into the battle we don’t want to fight and leaves us no choice. We can’t run away no matter how tired we are because of this war. You don’t see victory near, but that can’t be the reason you give up. The only escape way, is through.

But does the battle make us stronger in the end? I don’t know. Perhaps, I’m still in between the war. But you remember the lamp, it shone the brightest when the darkness was at its peak.

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Would You?

A bug collides with your car window
And I wonder if the bug is like me
Ready to die for a chance to stare
Ready to die, if only you’d care
I find myself holding my breath
Stealing glances of your gaze
I find myself counting to ten
Each time you turn your face
I carry an extra pen
I carry an umbrella everyday
I carry an extra bottle
I carry my heart in my hand
Hoping to find your gaze
Tell me, if it all came falling
Would you wonder how I am doing
Tell me, if the world was ending Would you ask me how I am doing!

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Posted in In A Nut Shell

New Normal? Nope!

The pandemic begins suddenly, violently, recklessly. No one knows what to do. The world goes silent. Not everyone one knows how to deal with isolation. Grief knocks at doors and loneliness welcomes us home. Life comes to standstill and breathing feels heavy.

They say its the beginning of the end. They never taught us how to deal with endings. How do you mourn the dead you never met. What to do with all these funerals you could never attend . 
Helplessness looms on heads and shops run out of masks.
There’s no justice for displaced. How do you stay at home when there’s no home? Too many questions lie unanswered.

Suffering doesn’t seem to end. The funny part is no one knew how badly they want to exist until a virus strain strikes. 
Everyone’s tired of wondering if a vaccine or practicing religion can save them. Will an antibacterial soap wash the blood of everyone they killed on their hands ? Will they someday understand how to stop mourning each morning?

The word positive seems deadlier than ever before. For once in life, everyone wants to be positive that theyare negative. Tough times. Hopeless cases of desperation. 
How do you pray when you don’t know what to pray for?
How do you believe when your beliefs could kill you!

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Silent Thoughts

1:00 AM
Blinking hard, sitting in the lone corner of my room. The blank page in front of me is staring back at me, that too in a similar frowned gaze. I roll my pen up & down the desk against my calloused fingers. I close my eyes and try to focus.

1:30 AM
My shadow, is cast on the wall by the light from the lamp on my desk. It is a quiet night. My room is lit up by the luminance of the lamp, the dullness merges effortlessly with it. I’m still trying to think.

2:00 AM
My fingers are rolling in my hair, like curling them. The page is still glaring at me, seems as if it is curling its lips into a vicious smile, judging me— i can hear the clock ticking, louder than my thoughts.

2:30 AM
I’m thinking now. I guess I can now feel the pieces are coming together. The blank page in front of me; was it an indication that I’d finally leave behind a whole lot of past?

3:00 AM Sadness often pushes you to extents that pull out a particular art of misery and gloom from somewhere within, where there’s no light or air. Am I happy now? Maybe, a little. Sometimes it becomes too difficult to judge your own thoughts, this is life I guess. Hard, cruel, vulnerable and ruthless!

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Posted in Life Lessons

Love is Complicating…

Love is an intense feeling. You can not stop loving someone, just because you cannot be together or because they left. Love isn’t a promise nor an agreement, it doesn’t come with a warranty card or an enquiry desk.
Loving someone is like two edged knife, it’s pain disguised as pleasure and the other way around. Some people will come into your life to tear you apart and some will put you back together way too beautifully. One day you’re gonna wake up next to your loved one and you’ll know that they’ll be there even if you close your eyes. It’ll all make sense then. Wait for it.

You’ll never know when is the last time someone walks in or walks out. So have faith in your love and breathe.

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You Only Live Once!

Do not burn self. Burning self is not a badge of honor. Go create self. Go earn your honor.


Life is not to be wasted in regrets. Do not be surrounded by useless things and clueless friends. Do not think waste or consume what you regret. Give your middle finger to everything negative—jealousy, heartburn, and self-pain.


Life doesn’t come to us. We have to be worthy of life that should come to us. Let’s commit to a positive, meaningful approach to life. Let’s commit to beauty. Let’s commit to the duty of being a better, happier, healthier us.

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Being Human…

When you ask someone to shrug off with their depression, you simply make their condition less trivial and ignore their pain. For people fighting depression, cheering up is not quite easy. So, be a bit kinder to them.

If someone opens up to you regarding their suicidal thoughts, take them seriously before it’s too late. And please don’t make a joke of it because it’s hurtful and insensitive. If you find this is something a lot that I am asking for, please try and walk a mile in their shoe for a day. Trust me you will realize. You will know that the shoes are so heavy that you will fall before you even take a step.

Be patient, be thoughtful, be kind, be human!

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It’s Okay To Feel Your Feelings

When it comes to feelings, you may believe certain feelings are bad and some good. Remember that there are no good or bad feelings. We are emotional and have a broad range of feelings, which truly have a purpose. Feelings ought to be expressed or else suppressed emotions at times manifest themselves in quite an improper manner.

If there was only happiness, it would eventually lose its luster over time. So it is important to experience sadness and unhappiness as well so as to truly appreciate the beauty of it all. Without being aware of the dark sadness we would not be able to appreciate the light of happiness.

Feelings too have a life cycle. They take birth, bloom, they peak and then die off. But that is how it is. The sooner you accept it, the better. Even in couples, after a disagreement, there will be resentment and anger which is not expressed. If the underlying feelings remain unexpressed, it generally leads to a disproportionate disconnect. All the unexpressed feelings will eventually explode.

It is important that we allow ourselves to fully engage with our feelings. Even if you feel sad, challenge yourself to stay compassionate which will help you to widen your emotional bandwidth and normalize feelings like sadness, despair or anger.

It is very important to embrace your feelings. Close your eyes and let your emotions consume you, cover you like a blanket, warm you from the inside out. After all, it’s absolutely okay to feel your feelings.

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Posted in Life Lessons, Shades of Life, The Untold Story

True Love is A Deliberate Choice

Generally it is not about the romantic way you meet someone. It’s basically about your compatibility, gestures and adoration. When it comes down to one thing to sustain love, it’s definitely choice. When you choose to love someone, it’s your decision. Every second, you put some effort to nurture that love and this gets us in trouble. I feel its wrong to say that love is something which happens to us. It’s something we make happen.

Love is an action, a pure choice, a commitment. The most beautiful thing about love is that you know that you are chosen by the person you chose. Love needs sacrifice and it won’t always be easy. But it is most beautiful when reciprocated. When you love someone you have something which is so profound. You have a home in that person, where you can be your own self, somewhere you can rest without being judged.

You will have some one who sees you truly and loves you forever. You don’t choose the one you will be attracted to, but you choose the one with whom you will stay in love with. Feelings are fleeting, it is a fickle thing. How you are feeling today will not resonate with the way you feel tomorrow. But real love is constant, it’s tangible. And when life becomes too unbearable, it’s love that gives us the strength. Feelings do not play any role here. When life throws us a curve ball, it’s in love where you will get the much-needed stability. You can’t just abandon love specially when its hard.

Love isn’t really a feeling, nor is it a state of euphoria. It’s hard work which needs constant compromise. Feelings can flicker, it can come and go. But real love? It stays and goes on forever!

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Posted in Idiosyncrasies, Shades of Life

Stop Thinking, Start Doing!

As every year ends, I tend to feel a little less motivated each time. I ponder on the things that I should have done but I did not do, the achievements I could have unlocked but I did not, the job I could have switched but I didn’t; and a huge list with other similar thoughts webbed deep inside. Not that I wasn’t capable enough; I knew that I could but I did not due to my own “n” number of excuses.  Actually, it is a regular thing for me, but you know, you get to realize a lot of things when an entire year has passed by and you feel so empty like you achieved nothing.

Feeling scatterbrained af at times makes me irritated. And I guess it is not something which happens only with me.  If you feel you are in the same boat; you will certainly be able to relate to my situation. In such cases, it is important to be more mindful.  Here’s how!

1. Be more kind to Yourself – Even if you are your biggest critic; try appreciating your own self at times. Know that you are good and give yourself that compliment. Nothing is impossible for you and sooner or later believe in the fact that good times will follow.

2. Your Journey is Yours – Remember to not judge a book by its cover; meaning do not judge people based on their achievements and the place they are today. Do not waste time and energy in comparing yourself with others. Your journey is yours and you know it better.

3. Limit Time for Social Media – Sometimes social media sites can make you feel crappy. Be real to yourself rather than following people in the unreal virtual world. Do not lose your own self in a black hole of depression on Facebook and Instagram.

4. Do What Makes You Feel Good – Realise your worth and indulge in what makes you a better person. You may be in your best form when you are dancing, singing, maybe painting or working out. In the humdrum and cacophony of this busy life, keep your senses alive; keep yourself alive and focus.

5. Be Grateful – Not everyone has what you have, so realize this and be grateful to God. Instead of focusing on what you lack in life, it is important to count your blessings. Life would indeed be much happier!

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The Art of Dealing with Rejections

The road of life is not just paved with multiple “yes”; in fact, there are serious “no”s as well and it is sheer important that you pick up your own broken pieces and move ahead with your head held high. Now that my friend ain’t easy.

Of course, everything is easy when it comes to saying but in actual practice; it is a daunting task to cope with failure. Trying to stay confident and calm is in no way easy. I feel blessed to have experienced a lot of rejections in life. I guess that is what made me all the stronger and brighter. Not just in work, but even in personal space; life brings you face to face with rejections and failures. I believe these setbacks and stepping stones force us to craft ourselves in a much better way and give a direction to our lives.

You may at times say “who cares” but deep within you know that you do. Try to embrace your failures and rejections and develop yourself into a better being. Hopefully one day you will look back at those days and smile.

 

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Posted in Shades of Life

Way back home

At times in life, you will feel that the journey itself is better than the destination. 

The journey is daunting and tiring. There is neither any pilot nor any driver. There is no map to bring you back home. There are no fellow travelers. The road is long and is of course not a smooth one. At times it may even happen that you don’t even know where you are or rather to put it straight where you wish to be.

Yet, you don’t lose hope and manage your way through it. You simply wish to reach home safely.

And when you are finally there, you know you’re safe. You are happy and at ease because you now know your soul has a place to rest. And that’s all that you’ll ever need.

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The secret of success

Initially I thought being successful is a daunting task. Not all are successful and that’s okay. But gradually I realised the real meaning of success.

After having worked in the corporate field, it became obvious to me that success is a broader term and without bringing in the Catalysts into picture the definition of success will hold no ground.

Imagine adding all veggies, oil, spices together with no flame. Would it be eatable? No. Adding all the ingredients together does not mean that the dish that is edible. It needs a Catalyst, and fire is the catalyst in this case.

Same holds true in careers and life. Most people think, “I have the ingredients for success so, I will be successful.” No, without bringing in catalysts, you cannot get the real success.

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Rejoice! Weekend is here!

Thankfully the weekend is here. For others every Friday is a “Friyay” because the next two days are the most awaited days. But in my case, it’s different. I work at a place where beside Sundays, only the third Saturday is an official off. So, of course it is really monotonous for me. I eagerly look forward to relaxing and destressing this weekend. 

“Sleep like there is no tomorrow!” This quote would work perfectly for me this weekend.

HAPPY WEEKEND GUYS!!


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Posted in Shades of Life

Happy life 

 I want to establish that a happy life is a matter of choice. A happy life is not one lived in El-dorado. Neither is it a perfect life.

Once you have fulfilled the premise of deciding to be happy. You must ensure some tenets to sustain it:-

Observe the golden rule : do unto others as you will have them do to you. This equally takes care of the third law of motion, in effect what eversion you sow you will reap. And equally reduces bad effects of some karma.

Express unbiased love . Avoid any form of wickedness it is absolutely useless, you will hurt yourself and eventually rob you of a happy life.

As much as you can be kind.

Live within your means. Modesty should be pursued almost zealously.

Learn to be spiritual, as it curtails vanity that propagates anxiety. At least some form of meditation will be nice. You can try heartfulness meditation if you have no idea.

Have a purpose driven life, live for something that is goal oriented , especially for the benefits of mankind, in the long run and not necessarily for self aggradizement . But understand that some unanswered prayers are also answers sometimes.

It is a tough world, but avoid stress as much as you can. Take care of you, no one can do it better. Some form of self love is essential for preservation. Love yourself, narcissism is relative but do not be carried away. Living for others remains noble and the ultimate service.

Do not compare yourself to others and expect less from people but wish them well all the time.

In each situation make the best out of it, and learn to accept responsibilities. Blaming others have never transmuted to stardom. Learn to forgive , forgetting can be handled later.

Take time to be a child, laugh at your self, play, dance, have faith without borders as children do. Believe in miracles. Only those who do will experience it.

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Posted in Every Picture Speaks

Every picture speaks #1

So guys, had this really important thing in mind since the past few days. Was working on it so couldn’t update regularly. Now I am back with a bang with an entirely new series of picture story series. As we all understand, every picture has its own message and here we would try to uncover those. Happy blogging!
This picture clearly depicts a complete circle of life. Just like this fallen dried leaf, as soon as a person’s journey on this earth is over, he also meets with the same end. Old age – dried and withered condition. An inevitable truth though!
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Posted in Life Lessons

Life lessons #16

Negative traits and their positive meanings:

Guilt : To err is human. But you should accept and learn from your mistakes too. This acceptance will take you closer to the ultimate truth.

Blame : Take the responsibility of the world. You might not be directly associated with the problem but taking its responsibility will make you stronger.

Anger : You need to see the world more because there are a lot of good things happening elsewhere too. Embrace that positivity.

Irritability : Ignore if something is bothering you. There are better things in life. Focus on these positive aspects.


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Life lessons #14

As I spent more time with myself I deepened the connection I had with myself. I stopped being desperate for others company because I started to have more fun on my own. I became my own friend. I started to feel more secure as a person as I tapped into my true inner being. I started to believe in myself more. I started to trust myself more.

When you deepen your connection with yourself through self-love, you’ll connect on a deeper level with others too. As your relationship with yourself improves, your others get stronger as well.

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Posted in Life Lessons

Life lessons #13

What is investment? Usain Bolt has won 9 gold medals in last 3 Olympics and he has run less than 2 mins on the track. That’s economy of effort. Usain Bolt ran for less than 115 secs in total in his 3 Olympics and made $119 million dollars! That’s more than $1 million for each second he ran! But for those 2 mins he trained for 20+ years !

*That’s investment.* *Think long term. Patience pays.*

 

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Life lessons #12

I was jogging one day and i noticed a person in front of me, about 1/4 of mile. I could tell he was running a little slower than me and I thought, i shall try to catch him. I had about a mile to go my path before i needed to turn off. So i started running faster.Every block, i was gaining on him just a little bit.I was only about 100 yards behind him, so i pushed myself. Finally, i did it! I passed him by. On the inside i felt so good. “I beat him” of course, he didn’t even know we were racing. After i passed him, i realised i had been so focused on competing against him that i had missed my turn. I had gone nearly six blocks past it. I had to turn around and go all back. Isn’t that what happens in life when we focus on competing with co-workers, neighbours, friends, family, trying to outdo them or trying to prove that we are more successful or more important? We spend our time and energy running after them and we miss out on our own paths. The problem with unhealthy competition is that its a never ending cycle. There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with better job, nicer car, more money in the bank. “You can be the best that you can be, you are not competing with no one.” There’s no competition in DESTINY, run your own RACE and wish others WELL!

 

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Posted in Life Lessons

Life lessons #11

Stop seeking others approval for everything. This is the most liberating thing I have come across. As I loved and respected myself more, I stopped worrying about how much others liked or approved of me. I stopped doing things to be liked. This created space for me to be more authentic, less defensive, and more my genuine self.

When you have your own approval and acceptance, you start caring less about other people’s opinion of you and living a life that’s aligned with your own values.

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Life lessons #10

I am ashamed of how little I valued the fact that my time on earth is finite. I regret all the things I could have done but did not do. All the people I could have had amazing, life-changing conversations with.

I hate that I gave so much time to consuming rather than creating.

I have no fondness for the avalanche of anxiety and restlessness that almost buried me as a result.

These days, I engage in things that push me towards the life I want. Because each time I don’t, I lose momentum and the next day is that much harder to tackle.

I make a point to always have something in my daily routine that makes me feel uncomfortable. Something Im sacred of. Something that I would rather think about than do. It can be writing, making music, learning a new skill, studying new ways to live, or even a harder exercise routine. Hope breaking out from my shell would make me a better version of myself.

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Life lessons #9

As I was growing up my dad would always have to remind me that worrying about things that are outside of my control was harmful to my attitude and ultimately challenging my ability to be happy. Plus, I had no control so I should stop worrying. He’d continue by saying that worrying about something within my control was not needed since I had the ability to fix the problem by taking action. Our time on this earth is limited, and it’s extremely important to make the most of it while we are here. Look at life as a dress rehearsal — even if we mess up our lines, we can stop, take some advice from the experts that support us and guide us through it, and get back to the show.

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Life lessons #8

For a long time, I was ashamed of myself because I “felt too much.” People constantly told me, “Oh, you and your emotions! You’re such a cry baby!”

It took me a while to accept that part of me, to accept that I am highly emotional. Today I can say I simply love my emotions, good and bad. I made them my number one guiding system through life. They always tell me if something’s right or wrong for me and always help me to make the right choices and decisions. 

Realize that there is nothing wrong with you. We all feel like that once in a while.

Befriend yourself with the thought that we are all perfect with our imperfections. Some imperfections we accept, and some we use as opportunities to grow. My nose or wild mood swings, your smile or silly quirks, her lips, his chin, our fears, our dreams—it’s all as it should be. Unique and perfect in their own imperfection.

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Posted in Idiosyncrasies

Introvert Struggles -12

Tortoises are out of fashion. They are no longer the wise ones, taking one patient step after another, coming out victorious in the end. Today, they are the ones who can’t cross the road fast enough, the ones most likely to get hit by a car.

There is shame involved in being a tortoise.

And so I have spent a considerable chunk of my life trying to turn into an extroverted hare, coming up with rationalizations for why I am not, most definitely not, an introverted tortoise.

For one, I don’t move slowly. In fact, I love to dance. I am quick in perceiving and understanding what people say and mean. I am not slow-witted.

But these explanations don’t quite cover what it means to be a tortoise—how their rhythms are slow and deep, how they enjoy taking in the scenery instead of rushing past, how they need the shell that protects their most vulnerable, precious self.

As introverts, it’s easy for us to get alienated from our own nature because of the extrovert bias in the culture at large. So, how do we reconnect with and start celebrating ourselves? It starts with self-awareness and living our own truths.

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Introvert Struggles -11

So today I was engrossed in my thoughts of my early career days, I had a boss who wanted me to speak up more in meetings and be more outgoing, but with my introverted nature I liked to think things through first and not just blurt out an idea or a response. I was exhorted to be someone I wasn’t and it made me feel defective. Of course I wasn’t defective. None of us are though some extroverts still think otherwise. Nowadays I truly celebrate my introverted nature and have created a lifestyle that feeds me. 


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Introvert Struggles -10

I am not alone with my “weird” schedule and feelings about socializing, etc. Every time I try to get on a “normal” schedule, it backfires and I’m miserable – I definitely wind up with my joy robbed. I know emotional trauma from my past has contributed to my inability to “rehabilitate” myself. But without a doubt I was born an introvert. I enjoy socializing one on one but group get togethers are not my thing at all and stresses me to the max. My acquaintances want me to get with the rest of humanity (early to bed, early to rise) but I’m going to have to find the courage to say, No, that won’t work for me. When I try it, I become exhausted and practically unable to function. 

A counselor once actually told me that with everything I’d been through, I shouldn’t add one more thing and force myself to “better” my schedule. It was such a relief to hear that. AND, I just happened to see the article today that people who go to bed late and sleep late are likely intelligent and creative people. I’m going to get some mileage out of that one 🙂 

And then a few hours later I read that it’s okay to live a life that is suited to me, the way I’m wired. I’ve always been in the minority on a number of issues and I need to accept myself for who I am. Love to all!

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Posted in Life Lessons

Life lessons #7

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want? It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective. Just remember that it’s always not about you. 

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Life lessons #6

There is no shame in not knowing. No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection. We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life. Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and so much more relatable.


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Life lessons #5

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out life’s purpose and do it all at the same time.

Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit. Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

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Life lessons #4

​Today I came across a very popular quote that says, ” Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

Totally true. No matter how carefully you plan things and how hard you work on them, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to and that’s perfectly ok. There is nothing to feel bad about it. We are humans and we have all of these expectations; predetermined visions for our “ideal” life, how will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with.  Sometimes our dreams simply fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction. Life is all about experimenting. There is no such formula for it. Hit and trial methods do exist.

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Maha Ashtami – Sarvastradharini Maa Durga

A caring mother and a fierce warrior. There is indeed no absolver of sins like Maa Durga.

Durga Ashtami is the eighth day of Navratri celebrations and the second day of Durga Puja. It is characterized by several rituals performed by enthusiastic devotees. It is also known as ‘Astra Puja‘ which means weapon worship. Goddess Durga’s weapons are worshiped on the day of Durga Ashtami.

Ashtami begins with Mahasnan and Shodashopachar Puja which is very similar to Saptami Puja.

Another popular ritual is one in which young, unmarried girls are treated as Goddess Durga and worshipped in a ritual called Kumari Puja.

Slayer of all evils representing feminine power and empowering women. Maa Durga is the epitome of grace and strength. This Puja enjoy the festivities in full swing and embrace the Goddess in you.

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Life lessons #3

This is one of my most favourite quote of all times. “I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You shouldn’t waste your time on making everyone happy. There will not be everyone to agree with you or even like you at times, and it is perfectly okay. It’s human nature to have the feeling of belonging, to be liked, respected and valued, but certainly not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot surely give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside. You will have to trust your instinct. Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect and stay true to your values. Life is simple. We complicate it.

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Life lessons #2

Hey people. How about some self introspection today? Lets talk about how important money is for us as an individual. In my opinion, money can not really solve your real problems. 

Money is only  a tool; a commodity that is essential to fulfill our “wants,” but it is not the panacea to our problems. There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet are living a wonderfully happy life. And on the other hand, there are many people who are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy you a nice home, a great car, branded clothes and shoes, even a bit of security and some comforts for life, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness. The “happiness” it brings is only fleeting which simply passes with time and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy. Life does not revolve around money. Money is undoubtedly essential but is not the sole essence of life.

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Shades Of Life #18 – Stand Apart

Hey guys.. Hope you all are doing just fine. Wanted to share something really interesting today. It is about the Abilene Paradox. To know more, continue reading. 

It is a hot afternoon in Coleman, Texas. A family is sitting enjoying themselves on the porch when the father-in-law suggests they all take a trip to Abilene, some 53 miles away to the north. “Sounds like a good idea,” says his wife. “OK, if you want to go”, says the father looking at his wife in the hope she detects some reluctance. “Well, of course I’d like to go,” she says. “I haven’t been to Abilene for ages.”


So off the family go on the long, hot and dusty trip. When they arrive, they go to a restaurant where the food is bad. They try to find something to do, but most places are shut. They just wander around in the heat of the day getting tired and irritable.

On the way back, one of them dishonestly says, “It was a great trip, wasn’t it?” The mother-in-law admits that, actually, she would rather have stayed at home. The husband says, “But I only went to satisfy you.” The wife says, “And I only went along to keep you happy.” The father-in-law then says that he only suggested it because he thought the others might be bored.

The group stops the car and sits back, puzzled why they all decided to take a trip when they would all have been happier sitting on the porch enjoying themselves at home.This my dear friends is the Abilene Paradox. It is a symptom of people who do not have the confidence, security and skill to voice their own needs in a group setting. This needs to be overcome for the entire personality development. 


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Life lessons#1

Hey peeps. Hope all of us are well. M back with my new series life lessons. Hope you all like it! Do like and comment your thoughts.

Life as we all know is very complicated in itself.  The more we try to uncover life, the more mysteries we come across.  Life is a maze.  At times we feel we have found a way through it, but suddenly it knocks you down. Relentless, remorseless and unremitting; life is cruel and at the same time is the best teacher. In the hoard of making money, we all as humans forget our duties towards our family, towards each other and even forget the concept of humanity. 

Would like to end with a quote “From dust you came and to dust you shall return. ” Then why this rat race of money making. The ultimate end of everyone is the same so stay humble and stay human.
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Shades Of Life #17 – Control your anger

There once was a little boy who had a very bad temper. His father decided to hand him a bag of nails and said that every time the boy lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into the fence.

On the first day, the boy hammered 37 nails into that fence. The boy gradually began to  over the next few weeks, and number of nails he was hammering into the fence slowly decreased. He discovered it was easier to control his temper than to hammer those nails into the fence.

Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father the news and the father suggested that the boy should now pull out a nail every day he kept his temper under control.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

“YOU HAVE DONE WELL, MY SON, BUT LOOK AT THE HOLES IN THE FENCE. THE FENCE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME. WHEN YOU SAY THINGS IN ANGER, THEY LEAVE A SCAR JUST LIKE THIS ONE. YOU CAN PUT A KNIFE IN A MAN AND DRAW IT OUT. IT WON’T MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU SAY I’M SORRY, THE WOUND IS STILL THERE.”

Moral of the story: Control your anger, and don’t say things to people in the heat of the moment, . Some things in life, you are unable to take back.

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Shades Of Life #16 – Have faith in yourself 

As a group of frogs were traveling through the woods, two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs crowded around the pit and saw how deep it was, they told the two frogs that they’re was no hope left for them.

However, the two frogs decided to ignore what the others were saying and they proceeded to try and jump out of the pit. Despite their efforts, the group of frogs at the top of he pit were still saying that they should just give up. That they would never make it out.

Eventually, one of the frogs took heed to what the others were saying and he gave up, falling down to his death. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die.

He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, Did you not hear us?”

The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

Moral of the story: People’s words can have a big effect on other’s lives. Think about what you say before it comes out of your mouth. It might just be the difference between life and death.

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Shades Of Life #15 – God’s time

A man walked to the top of a hill to talk to God.

The man asked, “God, what’s a million years to you?” and God said, “A minute.”

Then the man asked, “Well, what’s a million dollars to you?” and God said, “A penny.”

Then the man asked, “God…..can I have a penny?” and God said, “Sure…..in a minute.”

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Shades Of Life #14 – Don’t be judgemental 

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…

“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”

Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…

“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man, “Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.”

Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.

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Shades Of Life #13 – Shake off your problems

A man’s favorite donkey falls into a deep precipice. He can’t pull it out no matter how hard he tries. He therefore decides to bury it alive.

Soil is poured onto the donkey from above. The donkey feels the load, shakes it off, and steps on it. More soil is poured.

It shakes it off and steps up. The more the load was poured, the higher it rose. By noon, the donkey was grazing in green pastures.

After much shaking off (of problems) And stepping up (learning from them), One will graze in GREEN PASTURES.


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Shades Of Life #12 – Be responsible for your actions

One night four college kids stayed out late, partying and having a good time. They paid no mind to the test they had scheduled for the next day and didn’t study. In the morning, they hatched a plan to get out of taking their test. They covered themselves with grease and dirt and went to the Dean’s office. Once there, they said they had been to a wedding the previous night and on the way back they got a flat tire and had to push the car back to campus.

The Dean listened to their tale of woe and thought. He offered them a retest three days later. They thanked him and accepted his offer.hat time.

When the test day arrived, they went to the Dean. The Dean put them all in separate rooms for the test. They were fine with this since they had all studied hard. Then they saw the test. It had 2 questions.

1) Your Name __________ (1 Points)

2) Which tire burst? __________ (99 Points)
Options – (a) Front Left (b) Front Right (c) Back Left (d) Back Right

The lesson: always be responsible and make wise decisions.

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Shades Of Life #11 – Never lose your value 

A popular speaker started off a seminar by holding up a $20 bill. A crowd of 200 had gathered to hear him speak. He asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”

200 hands went up.

He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.” He crumpled the bill up.

He then asked, “Who still wants it?”

All 200 hands were still raised.

“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” Then he dropped the bill on the ground and stomped on it with his shoes.

He picked it up, and showed it to the crowd. The bill was all crumpled and dirty.

“Now who still wants it?”

All the hands still went up.

“My friends, I have just showed you a very important lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, life crumples us and grinds us into the dirt. We make bad decisions or deal with poor circumstances. We feel worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special – Don’t ever forget it!

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Shades Of Life #10 – Failure is a part of learning

As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

Failure is part of learning; we should never give up the struggle in life.

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Shades Of Life #9 – Utilize your time wisely 

Imagine you had a bank account that deposited $86,400 each morning. The account carries over no balance from day to day, allows you to keep no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every dollar each day!

We all have such a bank. Its name is Time. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever time you have failed to use wisely. It carries over no balance from day to day. It allows no overdraft so you can’t borrow against yourself or use more time than you have. Each day, the account starts fresh. Each night, it destroys an unused time. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, it’s your loss and you can’t appeal to get it back.

There is never any borrowing time. You can’t take a loan out on your time or against someone else’s. The time you have is the time you have and that is that. Time management is yours to decide how you spend the time, just as with money you decide how you spend the money. It is never the case of us not having enough time to do things, but the case of whether we want to do them and where they fall in our priorities.

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