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Don’t Judge a Book By Its Cover!

Everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that changed them. Everyone has a secret they haven’t shared; a past no one’s heard about; talents people don’t notice; weakness hidden inside; a story left untold, so never start judging someone thinking you know them back to front. Because the truth is, you probably don’t.

Life would be a lot more easier if you stop being judgemental. But the brain does not understand the concept of not judging. It sees something and reaches to a conclusion because that is how it works. The brain will judge the person with all the stereotypes that may exist in the minds of the judger. And that is the danger of judging a book by its cover. What you see may not be what you get.

As is rightly said “ Things are not as they seem.’’

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Do What You Feel Is Right, For You Will Always Be Criticised!

So, this is a story I had read somewhere which explains life perfectly. One day, it so happened that a girl in the class laughed as she saw the teacher write a wrong answer on the board. The school teacher wrote on the board the following –

2×1 = 2

2×2 = 5

2×3 = 6

2×4 = 8

2×5 = 10

2×6 = 12

2×7 = 14

2×8 = 16

2×9 = 18

2×10 = 20

When the teacher was done writing, he looked on the board and saw all the students laughing because he wrote the second equation wrong. He then said “ I wrote the second equation wrong intentionally because I wanted you all to learn something from this. “

He said, “This is for you to know how the world outside will treat you. I wrote correct answers 9 times, but none of you congratulated me. One wrong answer, and you laughed so bad. “

Here is the lesson – The world will never appreciate the good you do a million times but will criticize you for one wrong thing that you do. But stay strong and rise above the criticism.

This reminds me of a quote –

Once I did bad and that I heard ever, Twice I did good, but that i heard never.”

-Dale Carnegie

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All Happy Faces Aren’t Happy

A smiling face does not always mean that a person is happy. Smile is something that can hide anything going on in a person’s mind. But it can hide the pain to a certain limit.

When I was going through this painful phase where I lost my mom, I was totally a different person. I would sit on park benches for hours pushing back tears, fighting to stay upright, and always seconds away from being a total freak out. Anyone passing by me, looked deeply into my bloodshot eyes or sometimes noticed the occasional break in my voice and simply would ask me what’s wrong. Frankly speaking, at that point of time I was so lost and frustrated that I simply wanted to wear a sign that said: I LOST MY MOM. PLEASE GO EASY.

When things go wrong with you, you are actually the one who has to face everything. No one can ever understand an inch of your pain that you are going through, no one has any idea of the gaping sinkhole that has just opened up and swallowed the normal life of yours.

Life is a battle and we are all warriors. Everyone around you is experiencing the collateral damage of living, in one way or the other. They are all grieving someone, fighting their own battle, missing someone and are worried about someone. Every single human being you pass by is fighting to find peace, to get through their daily tasks without breaking down. Pain-ravaged people are everywhere and we are quite oblivious to them. But no one wears the sign – I AM STRUGGLING, SO BE NICE TO ME. And since they don’t, it’s up to you and me to look more closely and be more considerate towards them. Because most people are hanging by a thread and our simple kindness can be that thread.

No matter how hard the hidden stories around us might be, if you look with the right eyes, you’ll see the signs. Be considerate, be loving because all happy faces aren’t happy.

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Happy Endings – Reality or Myth?

We humans love happy endings. But does every story ends in a happily ever after? I guess no. Some stories start to end, some to teach us a life lesson and some to make us a better person. There are happy stories as well which give us hope and sad ones are those that show us the true mirror of life.

I always trusted happy endings. Since my childhood I loved the stories of Cinderella and Snow White where happy endings existed throughout. Life was never a fairy tale for me but it wasn’t a bed of thorns as well. What I fail to understand is that is it the fact that happiness is only meaningful when it is found at last and less significant when it is found earlier in life and is followed by unhappiness? Loving a happy ending is just a human abstraction where a happy ending is similar to death ending our life; a full-stop. But in life, happy and sad moments do not leave us. Life is unfair yet we crave for happy endings.

Things happen, sometimes good sometimes bad, but it is important to move on. It is important to be the person you are, not what your problems force you to be. In life not all stories have happy endings, some stay incomplete and some without an ending altogether. All you need to do is keep your head held high whatever be the situation.

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Way back home

At times in life, you will feel that the journey itself is better than the destination. 

The journey is daunting and tiring. There is neither any pilot nor any driver. There is no map to bring you back home. There are no fellow travelers. The road is long and is of course not a smooth one. At times it may even happen that you don’t even know where you are or rather to put it straight where you wish to be.

Yet, you don’t lose hope and manage your way through it. You simply wish to reach home safely.

And when you are finally there, you know you’re safe. You are happy and at ease because you now know your soul has a place to rest. And that’s all that you’ll ever need.

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The secret of success

Initially I thought being successful is a daunting task. Not all are successful and that’s okay. But gradually I realised the real meaning of success.

After having worked in the corporate field, it became obvious to me that success is a broader term and without bringing in the Catalysts into picture the definition of success will hold no ground.

Imagine adding all veggies, oil, spices together with no flame. Would it be eatable? No. Adding all the ingredients together does not mean that the dish that is edible. It needs a Catalyst, and fire is the catalyst in this case.

Same holds true in careers and life. Most people think, “I have the ingredients for success so, I will be successful.” No, without bringing in catalysts, you cannot get the real success.

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