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After The Relationship…

After ending the relationship, life becomes so depressing. We begin asking ourselves if they ever loved us in the first place, if they ever meant when they said that love never fades away, it is forever.

If you also think so, remember that love does not fade away, people do not change, it is the circumstance, it is the life that takes a turn at the wrong time. So, simply trust them when they tell you that once, they loved you madly, once you were their world, you meant everything for them. Time has its own plans. All you can do is just trust the vibes and let the person go. Let the memories stay, but do not stay entangled in the memories as it would become a chain for your future. Take a look on the brighter side of life and enjoy the little moments because You Only Live Once.

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Gentle Reminders!

Always keep in mind that this is the only life you get. Live every moment and spend time with others. Please your own needs, not at the constant battle for other.

Remember that you see this sunrise because you are blessed with it. Be thankful for your life and not miserable with it.

Keep calm in situations you feel like you are losing it all. Your time is short so remember every moment you have spent here and keep pushing yourself forward. Things will gradually get better with time.

You are you forever so cherish your life because this chance is forever yours.

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Let Not The Internet Rush You!

Do not let the internet rush you. You have time and it is absolutely okay if you are not settled at 28, jobless at 29 or not married at 30. Don’t get discouraged by people who are shining on social media. Remember, no one is posting their failures.

We all have fears, struggles, failures, scars and own fights far beyond what we show. It is essential that you fight your own race at your own best pace. Your Ego will never let you accept the truth. Stop getting mad when people don’t support you. The fact is that half of them cannot even support themselves. Keep marching forward and remember that the tortoise always wins the race.

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Live, Even If It’s Tough!

Each of us has a reason to live. May be a special someone, a child, a career, a passion or anything else. It is the thing which kindles the fire in your soul, and without it, you have no idea what to do with yourself. But at times, it happens that you actually lose the thing that kept you going and everything seems to fall apart. The excitement and the eagerness is all gone. The pain makes you feel meaningless when you lose your reason to live.

In such a situation, you need to redefine your reasons for living. Remember that life is always moving forward and changing. You will have to change too. The time will come when you will have to move on as well. If you have lost someone/something which was incredibly important to you, you have based your reason to live on this thing and you may now feel trapped when this thing has been taken from you. But it is not true. Your reason to live depends on you. You are truly dynamic and you have the power to assign someone the meaning and purpose of your life.

You do not need to change the world. All you need to do is simply change your perspective. Truly said “The most tragic moments in our life are the ones that define us the most.” Life is good but it isn’t always fair. There are good times and bad. But when things get tough, seize control of your life and find a reason to keep living. Find a reason to keep going!

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When Everything Goes Wrong..

Sometimes you are not tired, you are simply done. Done with people! At times I feel as if the events around me have a life of their own, and no matter how hard I try to mould them into a better form it is all going to be a waste of time – so it is worthless to even try. Life is too short to deal with battles that are pointless. So it is way better to leave some things on God and go with the flow!

It is true that when loves goes wrong, nothing goes right. Super strong emotion such as jealousy is ultimately temporary. All you need to do is watch it come and leave. You do not need to react to it. As far as quitting is concerned, rest assured not to worry about being labeled a quitter, as there is a hell lot of difference between giving up and resigning yourself so that you can finally accept things as they are.

When you feel everything is going wrong, remember that it is temporary. The phase will eventually pass and it is not the bad times that define you rather it’s your approach that does. Write about it and vent out your frustrations. Acknowledge the fact that life has different plans at times so do not be at the end of your tether. Overthinking will certainly destroy your mood so it is better to let go.

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There Is Never a Right Time!

It is not always advisable to wait for the right time when you want to confess or say something to someone. This time may be the right time and it’s just that probably you couldn’t figure it out. I feel that somewhere in a parallel universe there exists a record of all that you left unsaid. All that you backspaced and things you did not say. Somewhere those things have been segregated as per dates, just like these Whatsapp chat backups.

Those words that left you sour and empty and curdled your soul. All the things that you typed in clumsily over the phone in the middle of the night, masking all your desperation and dejection. It is all probably there in a parallel universe. These conversations exist in plenty and one day you will finally have access to all of those accumulated manuscripts. May be then you will realize how different life would have been if you had said all that you ever wanted to.

Life is unpredictable and we are swimmers in the ocean of uncertainty. Instead of being stuck in a whirlpool of confusions, speak up today.

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Time Heals Everything – Myth or Reality?

Is it true that time is the best healer? If it is so, how long does it take to heal our wounds; two months, one year, two years, five years? Is time alone enough for our grief to subside? I don’t think so and here is the reason why.

When I lost my mother, it was difficult to keep myself “under control,” and so I kept myself frantically busy. I would devote all my time to work and exhaust myself until late at night and spend hours doing whatever I could to distract myself from acknowledging what I already knew in order to run away from my grief. But I could never understand that one of the biggest myths about pain and grief is that Time is the best healer which is never true. Time does not heal anything, the pain remains there always, you eventually somehow get used to it and start living with the pain.

Personally, I don’t think time heals at all. Time may make things seem less important than they once were. With enough time, we experience more and more of life’s ups and downs, and that serves to give us more perspective. I think it would be better to say that Time makes us numb, or that Time lets us forget.

The pain is always there, buried deep inside which undergoes a metamorphosis into bitterness or stays just like some hardness and makes us a little more cynical.

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