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All Happy Faces Aren’t Happy

A smiling face does not always mean that a person is happy. Smile is something that can hide anything going on in a person’s mind. But it can hide the pain to a certain limit.

When I was going through this painful phase where I lost my mom, I was totally a different person. I would sit on park benches for hours pushing back tears, fighting to stay upright, and always seconds away from being a total freak out. Anyone passing by me, looked deeply into my bloodshot eyes or sometimes noticed the occasional break in my voice and simply would ask me what’s wrong. Frankly speaking, at that point of time I was so lost and frustrated that I simply wanted to wear a sign that said: I LOST MY MOM. PLEASE GO EASY.

When things go wrong with you, you are actually the one who has to face everything. No one can ever understand an inch of your pain that you are going through, no one has any idea of the gaping sinkhole that has just opened up and swallowed the normal life of yours.

Life is a battle and we are all warriors. Everyone around you is experiencing the collateral damage of living, in one way or the other. They are all grieving someone, fighting their own battle, missing someone and are worried about someone. Every single human being you pass by is fighting to find peace, to get through their daily tasks without breaking down. Pain-ravaged people are everywhere and we are quite oblivious to them. But no one wears the sign – I AM STRUGGLING, SO BE NICE TO ME. And since they don’t, it’s up to you and me to look more closely and be more considerate towards them. Because most people are hanging by a thread and our simple kindness can be that thread.

No matter how hard the hidden stories around us might be, if you look with the right eyes, you’ll see the signs. Be considerate, be loving because all happy faces aren’t happy.

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Before We Go!

Recently I watched this movie Before We Go and I loved it indeed. Outstanding performance of Alice Eve and Chris Evans witnessing a number of adventures together. Not only did they came close in the process but also got to know a number of things about themselves which helped them make some life changing decisions.

Here are a few power-packed lines from the movie which I genuinely loved-

Nick – “God. Why is it that any one decision always seems too small to be the biggest decision of your life.”

Brooke – “I don’t know but sometimes you have to just make the choice and jump.”

“This is no perfect. There will always be struggle. You just need to choose who you wanna struggle with.”

Brooke – “It’s possible, isn’t it? It’s possible that you could meet somebody who’s perfect for you even though you’re committed to somebody else.”

Nick – “No, no, see, I think if you’re committed to somebody, you don’t allow yourself to find perfection in someone else.”

Nick – “And at the end of the night, you’re gonna want to say some things, but don’t. Don’t ruin it. It’s nothing she doesn’t already know. Just give her a kiss. Wish her good luck. And, uh… thank her. Thank her for showing you that you can love more than one person in this life.”

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True Love is A Deliberate Choice

Generally it is not about the romantic way you meet someone. It’s basically about your compatibility, gestures and adoration. When it comes down to one thing to sustain love, it’s definitely choice. When you choose to love someone, it’s your decision. Every second, you put some effort to nurture that love and this gets us in trouble. I feel its wrong to say that love is something which happens to us. It’s something we make happen.

Love is an action, a pure choice, a commitment. The most beautiful thing about love is that you know that you are chosen by the person you chose. Love needs sacrifice and it won’t always be easy. But it is most beautiful when reciprocated. When you love someone you have something which is so profound. You have a home in that person, where you can be your own self, somewhere you can rest without being judged.

You will have some one who sees you truly and loves you forever. You don’t choose the one you will be attracted to, but you choose the one with whom you will stay in love with. Feelings are fleeting, it is a fickle thing. How you are feeling today will not resonate with the way you feel tomorrow. But real love is constant, it’s tangible. And when life becomes too unbearable, it’s love that gives us the strength. Feelings do not play any role here. When life throws us a curve ball, it’s in love where you will get the much-needed stability. You can’t just abandon love specially when its hard.

Love isn’t really a feeling, nor is it a state of euphoria. It’s hard work which needs constant compromise. Feelings can flicker, it can come and go. But real love? It stays and goes on forever!

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Shades Of Life #18 – Stand Apart

Hey guys.. Hope you all are doing just fine. Wanted to share something really interesting today. It is about the Abilene Paradox. To know more, continue reading. 

It is a hot afternoon in Coleman, Texas. A family is sitting enjoying themselves on the porch when the father-in-law suggests they all take a trip to Abilene, some 53 miles away to the north. “Sounds like a good idea,” says his wife. “OK, if you want to go”, says the father looking at his wife in the hope she detects some reluctance. “Well, of course I’d like to go,” she says. “I haven’t been to Abilene for ages.”


So off the family go on the long, hot and dusty trip. When they arrive, they go to a restaurant where the food is bad. They try to find something to do, but most places are shut. They just wander around in the heat of the day getting tired and irritable.

On the way back, one of them dishonestly says, “It was a great trip, wasn’t it?” The mother-in-law admits that, actually, she would rather have stayed at home. The husband says, “But I only went to satisfy you.” The wife says, “And I only went along to keep you happy.” The father-in-law then says that he only suggested it because he thought the others might be bored.

The group stops the car and sits back, puzzled why they all decided to take a trip when they would all have been happier sitting on the porch enjoying themselves at home.This my dear friends is the Abilene Paradox. It is a symptom of people who do not have the confidence, security and skill to voice their own needs in a group setting. This needs to be overcome for the entire personality development. 


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The Untold Story

             The untold story of life..You would be wondering as to what the untold story of life is. No one knows about it. It gives no clue. Just a second and BOOM..

Yes, you guessed it right. It undoubtedly is Death. People are afraid of death. Not because they are worried of dying or losing themselves. But because they are afraid of losing their near and dear ones. Death is an untold story because everyone knows that they are going to die sooner or later but when the D-day comes, they lose their endurance power.

It is too hard a fact to be digested that you have lost someone. The fact that the person you loved and cared for all your life has lost its identity and become only a body. The fact that whatsoever you do is not going to bring him back to life. The fact that no matter how hard you try to shake him, call him, yell at him, he is not going to respond or show any movement

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Death is something I feel very hard to deal with. I have witnessed quite a number at a very small age. It shook me badly from within. I became vulnerable and in literal terms i was shattered.

I was actually astound with the fact that how can  a person who is your lifeline suddenly exit from your life. The care and warmth of a relationship which had been there since so long can just end in a fraction of seconds. Well, that is how life is supposed to be I guess. Unfair and irrational.

Gradually, with the passage of time I became more clearer with the concept of life and death. I found out that death relieves a soul ultimately. It is destined to happen. The soul as we say has found its place of rest. The only thing that comes to our rescue in that hard moment is the faith in God.

It is said- Time heals all wounds. I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.