We’ve all heard the phrase which says that “ the grass is greener on the other side of the fence”. But it cannot be ignored that comparison is the thief of joy. We always compare ourselves with others and think that what other people have is better. It’s pure perception. Because the people on the other side of the fence are under the impression that your grass is greener!
But the fact is that if you really want “greener grass, ” you need to take care of your own lawn. Water it and fertilize it. Take care of what you have, and watch it flourish. The grass is rarely greener on the other side, as a matter of fact it is greener where you water it. It is you who has the power to make the adjustments in your life that you crave for. If you want to be happier at work, then be grateful you have a job, and choose to be happy at work. If you have a tussle among your friends, talk to them and solve the matter.
When you spend more time on worrying about and focusing on what everyone else’s garden (ie. life, career, relationships, etc.) looks like, you’re simply wasting your own precious time that could otherwise be spent on catering to your own yard. Do the best you can for yourself!
The flow of the river seemed a lot more surreal that day, as I sat on the banks of the Ganges, just completely mesmerized. I was indeed caught off-guard by the sheer power of consistency, that continuity wields, that courses through life in the most subtlest ways. We all seek it don’t we? And just look at the river, that’s all it has, only the faith of flowing water. It is quite lovely and strange, both at the same time. Though the river is always there, the water flowing through it is never the same, never still.
“Life is like the river, sometimes it sweeps you gently along and sometimes the rapids come out of nowhere. “Emma Smith
Are people also just like rivers? I wondered. Am I like that? Just like the river, I am always me, always flowing but always different. Will I grow with time or become a stagnant riverbed? Will I allow the people around me to dam me, so that I can only flow where they want me to or will they turn me to a canal for their own use. Detach, distance and take a look from afar. You’re such a small part of the cosmos, and yet there’s so much which is weighing you down. Maybe it’s time to let go, and observe what stays.
Have you ever observed a river closely? The river flows quite strongly and at that time you cannot see the riverbed clearly. In such a situation if there was some way you could stop the flow in both the directions, ie from where the water is coming and to where the water is flowing, then may be you could keep the water still. This would help you see the base of the river quite clearly.
Similar is the case with our minds. All you need to do is stop your mind from chasing sensory objects as well as thinking of the past and future and that is specifically the time when you can completely free your mind from being totally ‘blanked out’. It is this time that you will have a clear view underneath this turbulence of the thought processes. There is an underlying stillness as well as an underlying clarity of the mind. It is essential that you observe or experience something like this.